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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry this sounds like a terrible situation. Why is therapy not working? Is it couples counseling? If not working, find a different therapist.

It does sound like divorce is still the better option, especially if you are just married for the sake of being married and not in an actual partnership.... pregnancy/baby only amplifies problems.[/quote]

OP here. Couples counseling and he sees a therapist individually. The joint counseling sessions just bring our issues to the surface, he becomes irate, then the session is over and we have to wait a week until the next one. Generally, he will stonewall me for a few days then by the time we were at least communicating again the cycle starts over.

He is incredibly reactive and his reality doesn't match my reality. I'll politely ask him to rinse a dish before he sets it next to the sink and he will accuse me of yelling at him, threaten to cut off my access to credit cards and vehicles and take the kids and leave me. I thought his alchoholism.was the main problem, but he hasn't drank anything in almost 6 months.

Truthfully, the stonewalling is preferable to the verbal abuse. But sometimes I get both interchangeably. 
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He sounds absolutely awful, and it seems like this won't change. I would say do what it takes to not have him at the birth, and then try to get out immediately. Is there family or a friend you and the kids can stay with while you make a more permanent plan? I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it will be difficult and may seem like it's easier and less daunting to just stay and put up with him, but when you are on the other side you will be so happy you left. All the best.

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