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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't really think T is the problem, OP. I'm sorry there is no real gentle way to say this, but I think the problem is your wanting to control your child's eating outside of the house. You say you do everything you can to provide him a healthy eating life at home. Really, that is about all you can do. He is old enough, now, to make choices about what he eats when he's elsewhere...and he does. He's 12. He can turn down the snacks at T's house. He can even pack his own snack from home when he goes to T's if he wants. He eats what is at T's because he can and he wants to.

I also think it is pretty normal at this age to want what you usually can't get at home. So, I would step away from the battle of what he is choosing to eat and try to engage him in activities that can help get active and maintain a healthy lifestyle. The PP's idea of sports is good. Discouraging his friendship with T because of snacks seems kind of extreme to me, though.[/quote]

Really? Yes, some kids get chunky before puberty, but ... 18 lbs in four months for a 12 year old, and a friend's family that openly disparages your parenting choices?  It's ok for OP to be concerned about this and to find other things for her kid to do.  We have friends that have only non-gluten, non-dairy, weird, packaged 'natuaral' foods at their house.  Or kid doesn't like their food choices as well as ours (we tend to have lots of good fresh fruit, bread, cheese and meat around), but he would never, ever end a playdate or outing because of it.  The friend's family seems to have clear food issues, and it's OK to protect your kid from them.  [/quote]

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