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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it a chronic situation or a one-time event? Is the one you are assuming was aggressive remorseful or unrepentant? How does the injured kid feel about it?[/quote]

Both kids are pretty intensely competitive, and there is a complicated dynamic with a fair amount of jealousy between them.

The adults who saw it, and who are themselves pretty athletic and competitive and involved in youth sports, are pretty clear that a line was crossed.  Honestly, I'm not athletic enough that I think I could make that judgement, but there does seem to be consensus that it was intentional aggression, and not just rough play, perhaps related to the jealousy dynamic.

After it happened, uninjured kid apologized, but also seemed resentful that the other kid was getting attention.  Both kids were very focused on figuring out who won the game, which revolved around the question of free throws and who could sub for the injured player.  Eventually they negotiated something, which resulted in the injured kid winning.  The injured kid seems to think of this as a resolution, that losing the game was the logical consequence and now the score is even.  The kids have been separated since then, not as a consequence but because adults are off work for the holiday, so they're home with their respective parents.  [/quote]

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