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[quote=Anonymous]I have a very close friend that married a few years ago and her DH’s grandparents were extremely wealthy. I don’t know all the details but they own multimillion dollar homes, etc.. Primary residence is 10,000 square feet in sought after area.

My DH and I live a totally different lifestyle, professionals, live in somewhat modest 2400 sf 4 bed home in very expensive sought after area, regular couple saving for retirement, college, but objectively doing well.

We are very close. talk everyday, see each other several times a week... but lately I just feel like she simply cannot relate at all and some of her comments come off as critical and judgmental even though, I can sincerely say, she’s a very kind person and would not mean any malice saying it, it would just be ignorance of her part. She has said on so many occasions that our mom is small and don’t I want something bigger with kids.. I tried to explain to her that for “normal” people it’s not that easy to just upgrade your hone size significantly in our area.. we don’t just have an extra $600k lying around.. It’s like she can differentiate they are uber wealthy and we are not. And there are so many conversations like that. I don’t want there to be conflict in our friendship but even if it’s not her intention, some of it is insulting. Clearly she must recognize that most 30 year old professionals aren’t buying 4mil homes and the types of people that do are not your doctors, lawyers and tech people.. they had some major financial event occur whether they sold a company or have a significant trust. I just told her she couldn’t relate to me and it was frustrating trying to explain to her that we have a budget because she would often challenge back that she did too..

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