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Both me and my DH come from familes with histories of being overweight/Obese. Actually, both of us were obese as kids, and young adults. I was nearly 270 pounds at my largest, if that gives you any idea. Luckily, we both managed to slim done (in fact we met at an exorcise class!), and because of our family history we try to keep all unhealthy food out of the house. We now have 3 lovely children, ages 16, 12, and 8, and we instill our rules on them. We don't allow them to have junk food (non-homemade pizzas, fast food, overly sugary foods, you probably get the picture), and while we understand that we can't watch everything they eat, we try to regulate their habits so they can grow up to be as healthy as possible. Once they leave the house, its their choice, but I am definitly not going to have them become fat because me and my husband didn't provide them with a healthy environment like our parents did to us.
 
My 12 year old D.S. is becoming a bit chunky-not really "fat", but he has a bit of a belly developing and some mini-manboobs-over the past few months. 4 months ago, he was around 5-1 and 100 pounds, and now he is around 118 pounds, just for you information. Over these months he's been spending much of his time over at the house of a friend, "T", who he met over the summer (he move a couple of doors down from us, goes to the same school, etc). "T" is obviously overweight, and every time my son comes home from his friend's house he is talking about the brownies, or that giant bowl of chips, or that bag of gummy worms he and "T" had as a snack. Now, I wouldn't mind if this was a rare thing, but literally every time he comes back (and during the summer this was nearly every day) he seems to have had some unhealthy snack. When we invite "T" over, he seems to be always looking for food, particularly junk food, and will often leave early because he is hungry (nevermind I offered him yogurt, vegies, fruit, and so on).

We've talked to his parents (one of which is a doctor and the other stays home) and explains that we don't want our son eating all that junk every playdate he has with his friend, and they essentially laughed at our diet and told us to go screw ourselves. I feel really bad, because I like "T", and he and my son have a really good friendship, but I really don't know what to do. We've tried taking them out to the zoo and museums, and other places, but it always seems to end when I don't have some unhealthy snack for "T". Its gotten to the point where "T" refuses to do anything but have a playdate at his house.

In some ways I feel like I should just tell my son that he can't go over to "T"'s house, but that seems mean. My son doesn't make friends easily, and I would hate to see him lose one of his best because I don't approve of the family's eating habits.

Before all of the 'You should talk to your son about it people': I have talked with my son about it, he says he doesn't care. I remember being a fat kid, and while he isn't being teased yet, I know that he probably will be if he continues this cycle. We've also invite "T's" whole family over for dinner, and they schoffed, in front of my kids, that I wouldn't give out seconds to their kids (we were having sandwiches as a picnic, even if I wanted to give out seconds I couldn't, we made just enough).

Please, if anyone has any advice, give it. I'm really in a bit of a situation of being between a rock and a hard place!

-Janet[/quote]

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