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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP. What a rough day.

One thing that helps me is to close my eyes and count to ten, allowing the noise to fade for a moment while I catch my breath. And then I force myself to look directly into my kids eyes and get down on his level, while physically touching him even the smallest bit like a hand on the arm; making that reconnection helps us, we can all reset in a way and I try to say something that shows I empathize or say something to distract. I can't lose my sh!t when looking into his eyes and having a physical connection; it just doesn't happen. I can be frustrated or a bit terse, but I don't lose control of my temper.[/quote]

This is a great response but I will say that the trigger in PP rage will just build. I could do that 2 out of 3 times but the 3rd I just was too anxious. Its a sub-form of PPA. [/quote]

+2. What helped me? A low dose Zoloft Rx 25mg. My depression manifested as pure blind rage. Even if you can’t get a therapist please consider an exception. And I’m not a pill pusher. But if someone would have urged me sooner, it would have made my interactions a lot more manageable.

Tell your 3yo  that you need a mommy time out to handle your emotions. As if she can be a bug helper - read a big to your baby brother while holding this bottle as mommy makes dinner. Step away die a minute. The same way they take a time out if they have a tantrum. It also shows that you practice what you preach. When you come out, explain, apologize, and move on. That teaches that you respect them and they won’t accept intolerable behaviour. They’ll also see your growth.

Ask the 3yo to help with the 6mo. Who cares if they make a little bit of a mess. Let 3yo spoon feed the rice, or wipe off his mouth and hands, help wipe down the table. She may feel important and not excluded. You can also just set a destress time when you get home. Get home, don’t rush into routine - sit 10 minutes listening to music together before getting up. Talk about their day.

You’re in a tough stage. I don’t know your personality but these are things that helped. Hang in there!! Are you a single parent? If so, a babysitter that comes to your house fro. 4-8pm makes a world of a difference. You can also look into that. It changed my life and wasn’t too expensive. Even 2 days a week helped. I found someone in my neighborhood that would pick up from daycare 2x a week, come to the house and help with feeding, evening settle down, dinner, and bath prep. It gave me a few hours to plop on the couch, or lock myself in my bedroom, or go outside for a walk, or to the gym or to run an errand.

I hope you find helpful ideas here OP!![/quote]

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