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[quote=Anonymous]Well, I'm 39 and I'll give you my gut instinct.

First a disclaimer of sorts. I've sat in the waiting rooms at the fertility clinic and see women who look a lot older than I am. I have to stop myself from judging - not for the age thing, but because in my head I feel like I'm still 30 and that these women look like late 40's. But I know they aren't. 44 is the max the clinics will take I think, and the truth is that people probably just don't get as many collagen injections as I do. But all this is my way of saying, I view myself as so much younger than women who "look in their 40's." But I'm not. But my head hasn't left that thinking yet. I apologize. I'm getting there. So a nurse in her 20's may be looking at you from drastically different eyes. Maybe it's not judgmental but more like, "this will never happen to me, I'm going to go out to the bars tonight and get knocked up! woo hoo!"

What I honestly think they are thinking is that in our age range, and yes, you and I are the same age range is that people are freaked. They think we're going to step off a curb and miscarry. I think they don't want to be happy/positive/excited because they are afraid of not letting you know that an older pregnancy is tenuous. I don't feel this comes from judging because now I have to be 100% honest and call out another group - I see plenty of women 100 lbs overweight or more, and I wonder what kind of looks they are getting too. I don't understand why an RE treats a women without telling her that the health implications of not losing weight aren't great. So now I would have to ask - are there overweight women here on the board who get this same reaction OP is describing?

OP - have you ever had the courage to just ask one of the nurses? I would. I'm so hormonal right now, I'd rip someone's hair out if they gave me a look after working so hard and long to get to something I've wanted forever.[/quote]

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