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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you may just not have the right personality to have a nanny in your home while you are WFH. I wouldn't feel bad about it -- I don't have this personality either. I just really like to feel relaxed at home and having an employee, even one like a nanny who is much more personal, stresses me out.

What's your longterm plan for childcare? Sounds like your kid is 1.5 or almost 2? If you don't have a good alternative that you feel comfortable with (I get daycare is not looking like a great option during Covid, and there are lots of advantages to a nanny anyway), can you just figure out now when you will transition to a PK or nursery school situation? Could be as soon as this coming fall. Then you just need to find a way to cope for 8 months or so. I'd recommend:

- Make sure you have a private work space in the house so that you don't overhear as much of the nanny. Some of your complaints (especially about the nanny's occasional moods/demeanor) indicate you are just spending too much time around her. Everyone has low moods sometimes and it's unrealistic to expect anyone, even a nanny, to be a bundle of joy every moment of the day. You just need to get some separation so it doesn't impact you as much.

- Delegate some of the nanny interaction to your husband. Like can he handle the end of the day more days? So you aren't hearing first hadn't about stuff like a late snack or other minor inconveniences. Sometimes the nanny management falls disproportionally on moms and you might just be burned out on that stuff.

- What do you like about her on a personal level (beyond the care she takes for your child)? Make a list of those things and try to notice them when they arise. I did something similar with my MiL, at the suggestion of a therapist, and it genuinely helped me be less annoyed by her when she comes to stay. It's a little "look on the bright side!" which is normally not my jam, but it actually helps when you just need to deal with someone on a short term basis who might not be your cup of tea.[/quote]

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