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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a few that by all appearances ended up thriving, but the common theme was the affair was never about love (no romantic dinners, gifts or gestures--just wham bam) and they were in context of an otherwise very happy and very long marriage.  The offending spouses took full responsibility, remorse, did tons of therapy and truly changed after the ordeal.  All are now empty nesters (or almost empty nesters) and look like they are having the time of their lives.  Nobody never knows what any marriage is like behind closed doors, but these couples re-invented their marriage and worked hard at it post-discovery and seem happier than a lot of couples I know that muddle on in silent misery.  But, again, they truly always loved each other.  The marriage was born out of passion, not settling and the initial foundation was very strong.

The ones I saw fall apart post-affair were not very good to begin with.  I also saw a lot of divorces at empty nest stage with no known affair, but zero like/love and people that were living separate lives prior.[/quote]

In your last sentence---in some of those marriages one partner was cheating or had cheated but nobody (spouse included) found out prior to divorce.  [/quote]

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