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[quote=Anonymous]It affected me a lot. And I have much stronger memories of my parents being angry than of the good stuff (and there was good stuff) because of the fear. I also have very vivid memories of being confused and never feeling sure of what to do because anything could provoke rage.

I’m certain my parents would also say it was situational, and that they were just responding to particularly stressful times in our lives. But first, kids don’t always understand where that stress is coming from, especially the financial and work stuff. And second even when they do understand, they will blame themselves. I spent many years as an adult feeling responsible for the moods of the people around me because I learned as a child that if people were unhappy, it was often my fault.

I also have had depression and anxiety (well managed now, thankfully) since I was a teen.

And finally, my relationships with both parents are very distant (my choice) because once I figured out through my own work on myself how my childhood impacted me, I had to maintain distance and employ detachment to keep myself from being triggered by my parents. Especially after I became a parent, I had to prioritize my well-being over those relationships, which I know is hard on my parents.

I wish they had done their own work on themselves and addressed these issues before it was too late.[/quote]

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