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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do with people would watch the movie. It IS a way overused term. The move is fantastic.[/quote]

I have seen the movie and believe this is gaslighting. Trying to get someone to believe something that is objectively true actually isn't on some whim, and that it's actually "common sense", I think is gaslighting. [/quote]

Gaslighting is more than just asserting a false thing is true. It's undermining a person's sense of reality. In this case the DH is expressing a [wrong, self-serving] opinion about which words are curse words and which aren't. He's incorrect and his logic is clearly based on factors like "if I'm saying it" or "if it's said in angry versus as a joke". But he is just expressing a [again, wrong] opinion.

Gaslighting is when someone tries to convince you that what you are seeing or experiencing is something else, or tries to convince you that your memory is wrong. An important component of gaslighting is making the subject distrust their own perception of reality, or doubt their memory. It's destabilizing not because it creates conflict but because it causes people to stop asserting themselves. A person who has been successfully gaslit won't be sure if they even have anything to complain about. They will not trust their own opinions anymore.

So no, this is not gaslighting. Still bad, though![/quote]

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