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[quote=Anonymous]I have two children that are not yet school age. Although my husband and I both work full time, he rarely helps out with household chores (dishes, laundry, trash, etc.), even when I ask. He doesn’t set his alarm in the mornings, so if I don't wake him up myself, which takes a good half an hour that we don't have time for, I’m always the one to wake the kids up and get them ready for daycare. I feed the kids at night, I put them to bed, I make sure they have everything they need. All these things together make me feel like I am pulling all the weight of keeping the household running, and I am just so, so tired. My husband is also always raising his voice and gets irritated at the drop of a hat, which stresses the kids and I out. I feel like I walk on eggshells around him most times. We have seen a counselor for these things, but nothing has changed. I have tried everything in the book and all of his suggestions on how to “get him to help,” but nothing works. It’s getting to the point where I feel just exhausted and everything is half done because I can’t accomplish everything alone. Household maintenance (yardwork, fixing things around the house) falls by the wayside, and I am constantly cleaning up after everyone…in short, I can’t do it anymore.

But is divorce the answer? My husband is emotionally available, very loyal, and I love my in-laws, but if I’m going to be doing all the work myself anyway, what is the point of staying with him? He’s just…well, lazy. And constantly cranky. If I divorce him now, we live in an area where his family is all nearby, whereas my own family is on the opposite side of the country. I would have no support whatsoever if I were here alone, which I know would end up being the case considering no divorce court is going to allow me to move my children an unreasonable distance away from their father, who will want to see them regularly. I would be isolated (I have no friends here; we live here because his job is here) and lonely, but I feel like it is getting to the point where I can’t take staying with him any longer. I'm so torn, even with everything I've said.

I know in all honesty that no one can figure this out for me, but I’m just so lost. Any thoughts, suggestions, or divorce lawyer recommendations welcome.
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