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[quote=Anonymous]Nanny here.  Not more than 2.  One is fine but they do get quite lonely.  2 gives your child an actual family member whom they see on a regular basis.  3 or more is a problem because the small amount of time parents are actually parenting gets further divided up to the point where the children never get time one-on-one with a parent.  With two you can regularly do one-on-one because one parent takes Billy to soccer while the other takes Judy to girl scouts on Saturdays.

Note that I make a difference between two-job families and two-career families.  If one of you has a flexible job that is never more than 40 hours with little or no travel then it’s more about what you can handle.  But if you are a two-career family with both parents working 50+ hours most weeks and taking on travel and weekend work and inflexible hours to pursue career advancement then you really will only see your kids for maybe half an hour total on weekdays and like 3/4 of the weekend (most of these families have a weekend sitter or nanny to cover at least one day).  If that limited time and attention gets further divided between multiple kids then they won’t feel they know you at all.[/quote]

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