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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, OP, let's see if I have this straight.

You like this guy, you've been out several times and all indications are that he likes you, too. But you wish he'd text more during the day. Fair -- you want what you want. Have you talked about it at all? You don't have to make a big thing of it. Maybe text him a few times between dates and then say, the next time you see him, "I'm a big texter, what's your preference? I have friends who don't really text during the day because of work... how about you?" It can be a getting to know you thing, not a "this is what you have to do" thing. And if he is super resistant, you can decide for yourself if that's a deal breaker. Maybe you just need to feel reassured that he's into you, and there are other ways for him to do that. Maybe you guys just need to agree on a way of showing interest that works for both of you. When I met my partner, we generally sent each other a message via email once a day as a check in between dates. Neither of us has the kind of job where we can be on our phones all day, so that worked for us.

And that brings me to your second issue, the question of exclusivity. Once again, this is something you have to figure out for yourself. Do you want to be exclusive? Then stop dating other guys and look for an opportunity to bring it up for him. It doesn't have to be right now -- let it be organic. But if YOUR goal is exclusivity, then you should be exclusive. It's not a contest with him (you are not adversaries). You create the relationship you want by... creating the relationship you want.

If, on the other hand, you really want to keep looking around and don't feel ready to be exclusive, don't. If that's really important to him, he should bring it up, at which point you can discuss.

Get your needs met using your choices, not trying to use your expectations. The former always works, the latter never does.[/quote]

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