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[quote=Anonymous]Okay, go easy on me - I'm in my mid/late 20s, started to make a legitimate effort with online dating at the beginning of this year (although COVID obviously paused this for a while). Looking for a committed relationship and make it clear to guys before meeting up that I'm not looking for hookups and casual dating.

In late summer/fall, I started going on a handful of dates with various guys, outdoors and socially distanced. Most were fine but for various reasons fizzled out after 1-2 dates. About six weeks ago, though, I really clicked with a great guy. Based off our dates alone, he seems into me - we've gone out ~5x (I was out of town for a couple of those weeks); we talk for hours and laugh a lot; on one of our dates, he introduced me to his best friend (and based on comments this friend made to me, he'd talked about me quite a bit to this friend); he frequently makes comments about 'we should do this' or 'we should go to dinner at XYZ place'; and has told me how much he likes hanging out, how easy I am to talk to, etc. My issue is that he doesn't take enough initiative outside of our dates. He's a horrible texter (once every day or once every other day - I'm used to guys I'm seeing/talking to texting me throughout the day) and we'll make plans for our next date and he won't mention specifics/plans until the day of, which irritates me as I'm very Type A. This, along with the lack of communication in between dates, makes me feel like he might not be as into me as he seems in person - and in light of that, I'm still chatting with/potentially making plans with other men. Part of me feels like we're not exclusive, I can do what I want - the other part feels irrationally guilty and has this sense he wouldn't be happy if he found out. I should keep dating around until he initiates the relationship conversation, right?[/quote]

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