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[quote=Anonymous]I totally know how to handle this (my mother is just like your MIL), but it's kind of manipulative. Essentially, you re-direct the comment where it belongs: on her. Here's what I mean. Most of the time when people are like this they are actually projecting their own fears about themselves onto the people around them. So, if your MIL is picking on everyone else about their weight it's because she's actually worried about her own.

The way I handle this with my mom is to turn it back on her. Either I tell her she looks like she's gained weight too, which freaks her out and then we end up talking about pilates all night; or I compliment her on how slim she's looking and change the topic (e.g., is that a new purse? it's lovely. You have such great taste.  Where do you buy your clothes?). Either way, your goal is to change the topic and get her talking about herself. Just keep doing this every time she brings it up. Unfortunately, there is no way to shut it down permanently, but you don't have to get stuck in it either.

Good luck OP![/quote]

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