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[quote=Anonymous]Since COVID started, our nanny and we have both been very careful.  No travel, very small social bubbles, masks always and so on.  I've asked her since the beginning that if she wanted to do anything that involved risk, such as travel, that she discuss it with me so I can get comfortable with it.

So far, she has not gone anywhere, but has talked about visiting out of state family.  Whenever she talks about it, she says she would stay with her parents (who are elderly and careful) and meet extended family in outdoors, socially distanced gatherings, which I am okay with.  She's been planning to see her family over Christmas.  Yesterday, she told me that she just heard from her parents that an uncle rented a house for all of them to stay in for the Christmas holidays.  I didn't get any more information than that, but I'm guessing this means at a minimum, her parents, the uncle, her adult cousins (who are also out of state) and her, and possibly more people, as she has a large extended family.

Our nanny gets one week of travel over Christmas, but I expected that she would do it safely as previously discussed (indoors with parents only, outdoors with everyone else) so that she could do the minimum mandatory quarantine of about 5 days as required by our state (we live in the Northeast btw) and we be comfortable with this.  But this current plan involves a much higher level of risk and her doing exactly what Fauci and the CDC are saying not to do.  DH and I canceled our own travel plans to see family because of the rising COVID rates.  I know I can't tell her she can't do this, and I WON'T, but I can't say I'm not tempted!  But if she goes on this family trip, she will have to do a longer quarantine, which will have to be unpaid.

I guess I'm telling this story in part to vent, in part to see if anyone has any ideas about how I can handle this situation.  Our nanny already quarantined for two weeks (paid) in the spring back when she had cold symptoms, then another week (unpaid) in the summer when her roommate traveled out of the country.  The summer quarantine had been avoidable but our nanny handled the situation poorly, which is why it was unpaid (we paid for nanny's Airbnb for when the roommate returned, but our nanny moved back in even though the roommate's COVID results were delayed).   I think it's safe to say that she is out of sick leave.  DH works every day with zero vacation and we have a new baby this year.  I'll be honest, it's hell whenever the nanny is not with us for more than a couple days because DH works round the clock and I'm completely on my own with the two kids.  She's entitled to vacation and I was okay with her going and the mandatory quarantine, but I'm not okay with her having to be out extra days because she's going on a risky vacation.  What if anything can I do about this?  I'm guessing nothing other than not paying her for the extra quarantine days. [/quote]

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