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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this sounds a lot like our almost 4 year old (turns 4 end of Dec). She has been extremely shy her whole life, and very attached. She was a “high needs” baby, I guess, in that she wasn’t that baby who slept ever (still doesn’t), or could be put down ever. When people lectured me about “drowsy but awake”, I’d internally roll my eyes so hard I feared I’d pull something. She has always had some degree of FOMO, but at the same time kept in her shell. She was home with me while I WAH until this fall.

Pre-COVID, we had her in classes, but needed to modify so one of us was always with her. She got to the point with one class that she freaked out so badly about going that we stopped going all together. She always more or less would watch from the sidelines at the play ground, and kept to herself when we had friends with kids over. That said, she was always excited to tell you about everything that the other kids did at the park, or what happened with the other kids at home. You’d almost think she was playing with them if you didn’t know her.

That said, we live in Canada, and she started JK with her peers in the fall. The first week of morning drop offs were tough, but all our fears that she would never adapt were unfounded. The teachers give her glowing reports. She has “best friends”, plays well with other kids, contributes to the class, listens to the teachers, and shows none of the social anxiety we were so terrified about. She is also happy and secure enough to go play on her own. We can see now she’s coming out of her shell when we’re out and about, acknowledges other kids and adults, and is generally a different kid than she was a few months ago.

So maybe your son is “high needs”, but WTF kind of label is that anyway? He’ll come into his own. Continue to play around other children and let him lead the way. 
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This is really reassuring, thank you. That is so similar to us! Including the stuff about observing other kids even though he doesn't really play with them. He used to tell me all about what th other kids said and did at school, even though I know from the teachers that he didn't interact that much. He was obviously interested in them and we always assumed he was just working up to playing more directly with them and was still in the "parallel play" phase. But I guess he's still in that phase. I'm so glad your daughter made the transition pretty smoothly. I worry about PK and have doubted our decision to keep him home this year, so I hope we see a similar shift with our sone.[/quote]

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