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[quote=Anonymous]I think it depends on what would have happened happened if you didn't play with him.

My low need kid, at 3 almost 4, would have chosen to play with me if that was a choice.  But if I'd said "I need to feed the baby" or "I can't play right now, I talking with Ms. Larla" he would have occupied himself happily and safely, either following the older kids' lead, or finding something to do on his own.

My medium need kid, at 3 almost 4, would have occupied himself, but he would have chosen a familiar activity distanced from other kids.  Most of the time, at the playground, someone ended up facilitating to get him to try the equipment, or interact with other kids.  But if for some reason, an adult wasn't available, because we were visiting with a friend or feeding a baby, he would have been fine.

My high need kid at 3 almost 4, might well have run off and play, and ended up needing to be rescued from a piece of equipment he couldn't get off, or bothering the older kids so much I needed to rescue them, or throwing sand.  Or he would have decided that he wanted me to push him on the swing right then, and I would have either needed to push him, or needed to help him manage his frustration about not being pushed, or needed to wait out his minor tantrum about not getting his way.  All of these things would have made it harder to sit and visit with a friend, or feed a baby.

Having said that, I think you're asking two different questions.  One is whether your kid is needier than some other kids.  The other is whether what you describe is typical.  I would say that there isn't enough information to answer the first question, but the second question is almost certainly yes.  There is a pretty wide range of personality that falls within "typical" development.  [/quote]

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