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[quote=Anonymous]I speak to my mom every other day. I realize every family is different. My parents live 10 min away. DH's mother lives an hour away.

DH and his mom...speak maybe once every three weeks. Thanksgiving is tomorrow. I keep asking him, "Do you know what your Mom is doing? Should we Zoom her? Can we find a way to meet outside?" Dh keeps brushing it off. Won't initiate; won't reach out. Meanwhile, MIL doesn't reach out to us either!

There is no bad blood or anything. It's just radio silence at all times, to the point that I feel like she doesn't have any desire to see our kids, since we hear from her pretty much never.

Finally DH and I talked about Thanksgiving last night. He suggested we go sit outside at her house on Sunday. She has a very small condo with no real backyard and a dog who scares my toddler. I said, Could we ask her to come up here? And DH got all huffy and said no, she doesn't like driving and wouldn't want to do that.

So now here we are back at Square One and neither MIL or DH have contacted the other.

What do I do? Reach out independently of DH and initiate a Zoom or invite her here? Sit in her tiny yard with her aggressive dog? Let DH completely handle it? Their dynamic is so strange to me, even 15 yrs into our marriage.[/quote]

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