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[quote=Anonymous]I have two older sisters, the oldest is kind, drama free and easy to get along with. My middle sister is difficult and has, "jan brady syndrome". A deep rivalry, with me in particular, longstanding, and while there are kernels that were true about our childhood and painful for her(i was the good girl, she was wilder, my mother did not understand her) i always lived and supported her and felt for her. I really looked up to her in childhood. As i grew up, i saw her more realistically, she is self centered, but she is also funny and smart and my sister so I am her audience a lot of the time. This us comfortable for me, so i go with it.
 She uses me this way, shows me her hobby artwork, consults about stuff in her life, exhibits herself a lot and looks for my affirmation, which i give. I share less because i know she can turn on me at any time and I am a lower key person. Her rivalry makes me less likely to shine in my own life, but that's my issue to fix that i work on in therapy. She is envious i think, but we cannot talk maturely about it. Other family members would agree.

Fast forward, we are in our 50's, she's a type A lawyer  (impatient, aggressive, opinionated) I am a ph.d, we have families...I live 4 hours away, she lives close to them. And she sees herself as the designated protector of my parents. (She does have power of attorney) . My parents though  are well and independent. She basically is a ball buster with me in a variety of ways. and inflates her contributions, and devalues mine. It came to a head yesterday and i got really upset...really hurt by her implying i did not visit enough in past year, that i think i am superior, her "neck hurts from my demands that we all look up to you", crazy sh#t and a lot of projection.. How do you all deal with siblings like this? I'm unlikely to cut her off, i just don't roll that way. We usually talk again after a month
 This one hurt, because she is now positioning herself as the one who does the most for my parents. It is untrue. I caught her in a couple of lies and confronted her, so i think she retaliated particularly hard and was particularly unkind and intrusive. Still, this is her. And I am really bummed about it.

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