Reply to Narcissist vs control freak

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Narcissist vs control freak"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Yes. I divorced an actively alcoholic narcissist.

Love bombing so intense. I remember when he tried to say/.tease me into saying &quot;I love you&quot; two weeks in. I was 28/ This should have been a huge huge red flag. I bought the tripe of &quot;when you know you know!&quot;

I thought he loved me, he loved all that I represented. I had confidence and other attributes he wanted to possess. I dont think he ever loved me, he loved what I reflected about HIM&gt;

We had three kids and the pattern of abuse and discard started. Walking on eggshellls. Realizing he held grudges (and carefully nurtured them) from a decade ago. Unpredicable rage. Gaslighting. Removed the kids and I from family who saw what was going on and were trying to help via a job transfer. Escalating abuse, devaluation, fear. Constant threats of &quot;You are nothing without me, who would want you, you are invisible you are broken you are worthless&quot;.

He discarded us, took evey joint penny he could get, came after my family money. He slandered me and maligned me in my community. He split the kids and I off from any contact with his family of origin. He spent 30 mos and $300,000 on a divorce ~ that was money he needed more than me. The more he tried to hurt me and I'd survive, the more he had to hurt me.

There is no winning. There isnt even losing. There is no point in explaining, in justifying, in laying down and dying. No point. You have to go non contact. I wanted to die a thousand times over. I dont know that I will ever get &quot;over&quot; the way a narc exploded my life, I dont know that I will ever recover. Once youve seen the mask of the person you thought you loved being removed to reveal an actual monster underneath, you have little interest in even entertaining that ever again. I think he permanently broke me, but I am a strong, resourceful woman. I have three kids I need to show up for everyday, so I can't be broken....but damn do I feel that way most of the time. I survived and I am proud of that.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics