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[quote=Anonymous]So I understand this to be quite a common problem, but it flared up in our relationship again today. My spouse bought some $200 face cream, which is fine. However in the bathroom this morning she said this cream is working it must be working so well. Her skin looked great, or I guess it yet I have a hard time really telling the difference. I mean she looked very good, but I am generally suspicious of the claims marketed by cosmetic products in the United States because our FDA really lacks a mechanism to strictly enforce so many wild claims. Essentially, anyone can market a vitamin and say that I can solve such and such a problem, or take away knee pain, as long as they place an asterisk with a disclaimer in small prints it’s the same for cosmetics. Anyway, boring, I know and I digress.

OK, so back to the the issue. There of been times in the past where I frequently disagree with my wife, but I don’t want to feel like I have to walk on egg shells, or always agree with her point of view. I hate having to be worried that she will grow cold, distant, angry or be general over rally annoyed for a long time if I do disagree with her perspective. This happens all the time. I guess maybe this is a product of living together and scar tissue building up overtime and so forth. Because it’s generally doesn’t happen at all with friends. I can disagree with somebody that I know and it’s all good in general isn’t an issue.

Some other examples of me disagreeing with my wife, was a fight we got into you a few days ago. Her sister does not have a microwave at her house. She has a child who really wanted a microwave. So the child’s friend but I heard microwave. My wife told me there’s expecting me to be annoyed at the friends mother and a friend because it’s such an intrusion and spiteful gift. I agree that it was messed up that the child or her mother had bought a microwave, but I also found it really amusing in someway because of the whole original argument for not having a microwave. To my wife’s sister believes that microwaves take the nutrients out of food were generally change the molecular structure of food to make it more unhealthy or to potentially have radiation. Give me this claim is so ridiculously laughable, and in In line with so many of the messed up conspiracy theories we see today in the Trump era, that are so annoying, that I said I thought it was funny this little girl just wanted a microwave and it’s nor that big of a problem. My wife said again why don’t you agree with me on this it’s so mean. Would you be annoyed if someone did that to us. And frankly I really wouldn’t be that annoyed. Because I feel that I am more grounded in reason and would not even believe that a microwave causes those sorts of problems.

Anyway TLDR my wife and I argue all the time, especially with Covid problems all around us which is probably making everyone else stir crazy as well, but she accuses me of always taking a contrarian stance to what she says. Secretly, I probably do but it’s also because some of the position she’s take just aren’t factual or I just generally really disagree with him. So if anyone else out there has that problem and I’m sure they do I’d like to hear about your experience. Thank you. Also, sorry about any run on sentences I am voice dictating this on my phone.[/quote]

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