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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My girlfriend and I are getting very serious. We have been together for two years and I felt like it was headed in the right direction. She told me yesterday that she has decided she doesn't wants kids. She has some babysitting experience and said she found it tedious and boring. [b]I knew she was always a little unsure but I thought it was more so to not scare me off or seem desperate. [/b]She said she does not want to be responsible for another human being. I understand it's big commitment, but I have always been sure I wanted kids. I really love her and want to be with her, but I worry I will grow to resent her down he road for not giving me children. Am I being selfish? Should we breakup?[/quote]

You're not being selfish at all - if you know you want kids and she knows she doesn't then you are not right for each other.

But the bolded is interesting to me - you have "always been sure" you wanted kids, but you thought she was lying about not being sure whether she wanted kids to avoid scaring you off?  Did [i]she[/i] know you were sure you wanted kids?  Doesn't sound like it.  Were you just performing a role for her as the guy who needs convincing to settle down, and assuming she was doing the same as the cool girl who can't be bothered?  [/quote]

OP here. I told her I wanted marriage and kids but I wasn't looking for an immediate commitment. I would like those down the road and I wasn't in a rush. I wanted to wait for the tight person. She said she was unsure about kids but definitely wanted to wait. Some women will say they are unsure or not super serious about having a commitment, but they do want one. They say that to not look desperate. I've known many women who have done that. [/quote]l

I don't know any women who lie about wanting/not wanting kids, as the bulk of the responsibility for children falls on the woman, that's one thing their pretty clear on.[/quote]

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