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[quote=Anonymous]It’s an ongoing issue. He works until 5:30 but has an hour commute. I always start cooking dinner at 5:30 with the expectation we will all eat at 6:30. It never fails that whenever he’s running late, he doesn’t give me the consideration of a text to let me know. It’s an ongoing complaint of mine and I will explain why:

If I knew he was going to be very late, I wouldn’t cook. I’d pop something easy in the oven for the kids, get them to bed early, and have wine and ice cream for dinner. Like I said, I cook at 5:30, but that’s also the busiest time of the evening for us; kids doing homework, laundry to be started, etc etc. I’d love to be informed NOT to cook. Instead, he leaves me in the dark and I waste time cooking a family dinner. (Yes, he has access to his phone to send “late don’t cook” at the very least, and would obviously know at 5:30 that he wasn’t leaving the building. No excuses.)

Every time it happens, I explain to him what I’ve explained here to you. I just want a heads up so I don’t start dinner.

I talked to my friend about it and she’s like, make him call every day when he leaves. But I’m not his mommy. I could stop cooking dinner during the week, only on the weekends. Make him fend for himself with cereal or PBJ. But that seems punitive to the point of being petty, and maybe even more work for myself in the long run because I still have kids to feed, as well as myself. But maybe not?

What actions can I do MYSELF that aren’t petty but will finally get the point across? I’m really, really livid after this last time tonight. He knew very early he would be late, knew I was having a stressful, busy day, and still didn’t have the consideration to just send a three word text.

Is this hopeless or do you all have advice? [/quote]

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