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[quote=Anonymous]I think the highlights are already here.

Big thing is that you have to reach him where he is on the curve.  If he is making progress of any kind, you have to support it.

You can't bring things into the house that he will want to eat.  You can't expect him to eat what you are eating or when you are eating, he may be going it alone for a while.   Helping him avoid temptation is huge.  Not pushing him or pointing out small setbacks is also huge.   Need to look at progress over weeks, not days and find ways to capture that progress meaning it's not always about losing a pound this week if you've lost five in the past month, keep a log and keep track of things over time he can see how far he's come.   To me, that was most of it and that's where you gain power.

It's a big number so it touches every aspect of your life, physical endurance, the clothes you wear, the food you eat, the way others perceive you, the way you see yourself, etc and it's hard to be ahead every day in all of those columns.  Take the wins where you can get them.

I also bought a lot of new clothes along the way because I tossed anything that was loose or didn't fit anymore.  Didn't want it around, but people look at things differently.  Agree with what someone said on the workout clothes.  I bought myself whatever I wanted there as a splurge and incentive to keep working out.   Working out was key not because of the calories burned but because of the investment.  If you go burn 700 calories, you know how difficult it is and you are much less likely to squander those calories in two minutes on dessert.

If I were starting again, I would look at 60 lbs as a 2 year project.   20 lbs in the first 3 months (easiest), the second 20 by the end of the first year and the last 20 by the end of the second year.   And that loss is not linear all the way down, there will be some +3 and +4 plateaus along the way.   That's just a realistic way to look at it and if you can sustain it for a longer period of time the chances of making it stick are much greater.
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