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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is your attention divided?    Is following the "elite athlete" the primary family activity?  As in, does everyone go to games together,  does everyone travel to tournaments, does priority to parent time/attention/access to transportation go to athlete and sibling is sometimes unable to participate in their own activities (even if it is just hanging out with a friend)

Don't push sibling to "find a passion".   Support sibling in things they want to do, whether that is athletics, music, academics, art or just playing with friends.    They do not need to do these things in an "elite" capacity, but they do need the support to try things out and participate without feeling like they need to perform at a professional level to get the same attention and family time and resources that "elite athlete" does.

Note:  I'm sure the specifics of this is different during covid times, but the principle is the same and sibling definitely remembers how you prioritized your time in the past.  [/quote]

This.  Probably nothing makes the other kid feel as badly as being told 'you'll find your passion, too.'  Not all people have a 'passion' and that's okay.  I also agree that it is important for the parents to do a good job in not dedicating all of their time to the athlete.  Someone stays home and be happy about it (!), not to babysit the 'loser' but because the 'elite' athlete's life doesn't get to trump everyone else's.  It is a fine line.[/quote]

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