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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You realize that your lasagna example makes you look crazy, right? [/quote]

I disagree with PP, OP. Years of shitty micro aggressions like that? They were both probably the nasty mean girls at school and weren't human enough to grow out of it. Some people get off on being exclusionary because it makes them feel important and I could see how this behavior would be hurtful when all you're trying to do is have a family dinner. It sounds exhausting. [/quote]

I agree.

OP, just find reasons not to go. Let DH and the kids go on their own. Repeat.[/quote]

I also agree and am puzzled how some other PPs don’t get it. OP, have you ever responded directly to these things?  “Oh, sorry. I can go if that’ll make it more comfortable for you to cook.” Do it politely and deadpan. They’ve learned they can say and do whatever and you will just eat their shit. You can push back a bit or at least stand up for yourself. Give us more examples if you want us to coach you. How do they treat your kids?

Another option is to really stop caring about them, which you can achieve with some effort, and just focus on your kids and ignore them as much as possible. Don’t initiate conversation with them, don’t try to engage them, be polite and treat them like you’d treat a stranger. [/quote]

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