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[quote=Anonymous]Sadly, OP, a lot of guys are not good at learning how amazing the long-term love is (hence affairs happen).

What works for us (also married 7 years) is to have routines we enjoy -- spending a half hour in bed talking or snuggling before lights out (and snuggling leads to other things that keep the marriage happy!), taking at least one weekend "trip" (e.g. go to the farmer's market, go to the museum) together, have one "date night" per week.  It's tougher now that we have a DC, but we are learning to supplant some old routines with new ones (bathtime together, playing with DC, etc).  This helps us feel connected.

In addition, one great way to fake the "butterflies" is to engage in something challenging as a couple -- research has shown that couples feel bonded when they take on a challenging activity (usually physically challenging is best) that requires both of them to cooperate to succeed.  I'm thinking rock wall climbing, hiking at Great Falls, taking karate lessons together, learning fencing, learning to water ski, whatever -- let your imagination run wild.  The more out there the new physical activity is, the more it'll rock both of your worlds and make you feel bonded because you're facing the challenges together.

Good luck![/quote]

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