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[quote=Anonymous]Oy, that's tough. I was the high-performing musician -- conservatory scholarship, public performances, etc. -- and my fraternal twin couldn't pick up a tune. Even though we're well-adjusted adults now (and I didn't pursue music professionally), in a way I still feel somewhat sheepish and guilty about it all. Because without me as a comparison, my sibling was a strong student and a good person. I just had this "talent" that got more public attention.

I'm not sure I have much of an answer for you other than what you're doing. On one extreme is Pete Sampras's parents who wouldn't even come to his matches because they didn't want to show favoritism over his siblings. I don't think you need to go that far. In fact, in my case, it didn't help when my parents and I would try to minimize and hide my successes. It comes across as pitying.

So, do your best to praise the effort and dedication, not the results. You say that DC2 doesn't have any activity with the same passion. And that's ok. But even if it's not the same level of passion, is there anything that you can spend time doing with DC2 that will capture your undivided attention as parents? Even if it's a recreational round of golf on the weekends, going for a hike, or whatever DC2 wants to do, it doesn't need to be national caliber, you just need to show that you're equally "invested" in both.[/quote]

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