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[quote=Anonymous]It depends on what you define as love. I've been loved, but not by anyone who hasn't also hurt me really badly, other than my kids. Everyone else who has loved me - parents, spouse, grandparents, and friends - has been conditional in some way.

When I was younger I was mad and hurt that my family didn't love me unconditionally. As I've aged, I've learned to accept what love they were able to offer. I had hoped to find unconditional love in my spouse, but though he is a good partner in many ways and loves me as much as he is capable of, he has not been faithful. So, conditions there too. I have accepted that it's who he is.

I honestly don't know that any human is capable of loving another person unconditionally. I mean, I love my kids that way and I know it's possible for parents to love like that, even if mine didn't. But for all other relationships? I think love is always bounded in some way.

As I've gotten older, I've also realized that human love doesn't transcend the fundamental truth that we are born and die alone. Now I appreciate the people in my life because they're good company. I no longer ask them to be a barrier against the void, if that makes sense. My life is my own. I'm no longer waiting for anyone to make it happy - through love or companionship or whatever. Now I just focus on making sure I'm making choices and living a life that, if I died tomorrow, I could look back on a know I did the best I could with the time I was given.[/quote]

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