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[quote=Anonymous]The mother of one of DD's friends has decided to befriend DH over this past year. She is a sahm and seems to be in a pretty unsatisfying marriage and is very open about that.

I am the primary parent under normal circumstances but due scheduling for a shared extracurricular w/this woman's child, DH is the main contact. She texts DH every day. She texts about everything and anything...the weather, the election, the kids, her dinner... It feels nonstop. And he replies every time. Even when in conversation with me or with DD. He doesn't hide this. I've expressed concern that the texting with her is changing his behaviors around us; normally, for him, texting while actively engaged with others -- especially family -- is off limits. It is annoying and rude behavior.

DH has friends of the opposite sex. I do, too. His best female friend is even DD's godmother.

But this woman is new in our lives. And something about her really, really rubs me the wrong way and lately is setting off alarms. She doesn't talk to me or make eye contact. She's not my "type", by any means -- an attention-seeker, loud. My friends are chill, laid back, non-domineering.

I've talked to DH about this and how I am starting to feel, but he gets defensive. Says she's his only "mom friend" of DD's group. Kinda true, but ... I am expressing my discomfort with the constant texting, the way she doesn't look at or talk to me, and so on. He just blows it off and talks about all the friends I have. He, in reality, has many more friends than me. I have -- and prefer to have -- a small handful of close friends and a small group of "mom friends". He has several close friends plus a large network of acquaintances he talks to often.

(A bit of background -- this is my second marriage; first time around I married very young, first husband had 2 affairs, and I ended it.)

In almost 15 years of this marriage, I've never felt insecure, lonely, or jealous. It feels bad and it feels ugly. And I am starting to feel hopeless, bitter, and out of my league here.

So...there we are. Thoughts on this?[/quote]

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