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[quote=Anonymous]OP you were asking for him to say a loving affirmative word about how and why he loves you. You hid it under the “exercise” of both of you sharing things you love. He was honest but his frustration is likely because you prod him in other ways. What are you insecure about? Have the conversation with yourself privately, and then share what you learn with your husband when the time is right. And please apologize to him for being demanding and unaccepting of his reasons. You would have gotten much further if you asked “why does you value my ability to change so much?”. His answer may have surprised you: “because you’re resilient and encourage me, because I’m always excited, because I know we can make it through anything and I trust you, blah blah blah”. Instead you asked “what else”. You aren’t placing any meaning in your couples exercise because it is all about you picking for something instead of truly learning to peel back and love what you both are presenting to each other.

Bigger concerns are an undercurrent for sure but you can change the course with a shift in your thinking.[/quote]

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