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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are white and adopted an AA baby girl. She is now 8 and happy healthy and thriving. We belong to a transracial support group and none of the other kids have FAS. Yes there is risk, but I have 2 friends who gave birth to children with severe disabilities so it can happen that way too. Don’t let your fears get in the way if you truly know this is the way you want a family. [/quote]

This.  You'll probably have an easier change of adopting being bi-racial.  Drug exposure is only one risk.  I would also be worried about mental health history of bipolar and schizophrenia and other things.  Your child birth or adoption can end up with serious issues and some might have been prevented, others not.[/quote]

To this second poster, do you even have any experience with this, or are you just relying on stereotypes?

I was diagnosed with bipolar well into my 30's, and now I no longer hold on to the negative stereotypes I once did. Get this, zero family history related to this for me. My kid will have maybe a 10% chance of bipolar (that's the percentage chance, for the child of a parent with bipolar). It's related to giftedness and creativity.

You may not be aware, but many highly successful people have it, you just can't tell to look at us.

Bipolar is highly treatable, and in many cases probably preventable, with good sleep hygiene, etc, and being lucky enough to avoid trauma.

As someone with bipolar, I also know more about schizophrenia and feel that those negative stereotypes are also unwarranted.

Just another thought to throw in, I was not adopted, had perfect care in utero, no family mental illness history, and still ended up with bipolar... And still, my life is great, I am content (and also happen to have a career and family life that checks all the boxes for what one can hope to achieve, too).

To OP, I wish you best of luck with building your family through adoption.
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