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[quote=Anonymous]I might be naive, but being AA I would expect fewer black babies to have FAS. The primary reason babies are given up for adoption in my experience is poverty, young mothers, too many baby daddies, etc. a lot of these girls cannot afford drugs or it is just not in the culture (the young dad smoking weed is more likely). A lot of AA interested in growing their family thru adoption try to go thru foster care. the  competition for AA babies is a lot less than white infants, so the chance of finding a healthy kid just born into a bad situation is higher.

About 15 years ago my DH and I went to an interest meeting for an adoption firm in SC. There  were about 30 couples there and only 2 of them were black. They set the expectation early on about timeline and international vs domestic babies and for specific race and biracial babies. We were targeted as soon as  we got there and afterwards were told they had black babies available if we were really interested. We werent ready that soon and was just there getting info, and in the end went with a private lawyer who was working directly with a few young ladies. (I actually wouldn’t recommend that specific route because afterward we found out one they pressure and threaten the young mothers who try to back out and keep their baby)

My kid is healthy and was born to a 17yo mother who already had 2 young kids. We were able to meet her beforehand. She chose us, and we know it was the hardest decision, but she gave us the best gift.[/quote]

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