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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s concerning that you think YOU need to change to help him trust you.

I’ve been down that path and there’s nothing you can do. You’ll just jump through more and more hoops. Trust is his choice.

I agree that people need to feel open with their feelings in relationships but if you’re just vomiting up insecurities with no basis in realty, you need individual therapy. [/quote]
I guess maybe change isn't the right word, though I think it's okay to acknowledge we both play a role in our relationship that, to work through, may require change on both our parts. This particular issue may not be one about "change" for me per se, but I am trying to be open to the idea that I may need to change how I see things/act on things in our relationship (as he will) to advance it forward.

He is thinking of starting his own individual therapy and has acknowledged that he has his own issues to visit. I have also been speaking positively about my personal therapy and I hope that encourages him to seek it out for himself.

Also thank you, because as I said I am confused by his distrust, "my truth" around this is based on what did not happen in actual reality, and while I am trying to be understanding, needed some validation on that point. So thanks.[/quote]

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