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[quote=Anonymous]Now, I know that no one should have another child unless they are 100% about it. So in reality, I will likely not go through with having a second. But I’m finding myself wondering about it.

I’ll be 34 next week. DH will be 35 next month. Our daughter will be 4 next week.

Reasons we have wanted to have one child:

1. We both work full-time and want to be able to relatively easily balance that and spend time with her.

2. Financial flexibility around schooling (for example, being able to private school if necessary and save for college).

3. Financial flexibility around doing the above and also going on vacations and saving for retirement.

Reasons I would want to have another:

1. I miss having a baby.

2. It would be nice for DD to have a sibling.

Now, I know that there’s no guarantee of having a healthy baby and no guarantee the two of them would get along. We would no longer have flexibility around schooling, would not be able to take nice vacations, etc. I also worry that at this point, there would be a pretty big age difference — if I got pregnant now, DD would be almost 5 when the baby is born.

Really, this is my rational and emotional sides conflicting. This isn’t so much a question as a musing. I wonder if anyone else is in the same boat. [/quote]

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