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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I seem to be getting further and further apart.  Main issue for me is that I have no voice. Often when I talk - about anything really - he cuts me right off and shuts down the conversation one way or another. If I try to discuss something in terms of how I feel, he usually responds by denying my feelings (yes, he actually does this - he doesn’t “believe” me when I tell him how I feel) or correcting  them.  
 If I try to resolve a problem between the 2 of us by sharing my feelings, that’s the worst of all - he launches a personal attack on me. He often storms out and waits for me to apologize. Sometimes I do apologize just to keep the peace. I try to at least acknowledge that he is upset and apologize for unintentionally causing it. But then he gets even more worked up and claims that I intend to hurt him and make him angry. 
I have suggested counseling many times to help us with our communication. He has said he would tell the counselor that I am abusive. He has also said that he doesn’t want to go to counseling just that he would have to listen to my bullshit. These are exact words by the way. So I don’t think we are good candidates for counseling. 
For the last few months I have been avoiding interaction with him because I am feeling so alienated and depressed about the way we interact. I don’t see how problems can be resolved when we have no ability to communicate. But now he is accusing me of being distant and giving him the silent treatment. So not talking is not helping. Plus I am lonely and on edge all the time knowing anything I say - or don’t say - may provoke a fight. 
I’m at my wits end.  Anyone ever deal with something like this? 
By the way I work full time, I am not overweight, and we still have sex.  [/quote]

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