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[quote=Anonymous]OP, are you feeling like SAHMs are snubbing you/not including you, or that your child doesn't get invited for playdates?  It's hard to tell from your post exactly what is bothering you.

I posted earlier, but I really don't do playdates.  It's nothing personal, but we are really busy, including on weekends, and unless there's a reason my kid is absolutely dying to play with a particular kid outside of school, we just don't build that into our calendar.  My kids don't even get off the bus until 4:20 and we have activities most nights, so there is no room for weekday playdates -  they play outside in the yard or ride bikes, and if there are neighbor kids out, they play with them.  And on weekends, we have other things going on most of the time.

Your kindergartener must be in school full-day.  So are you looking for after-school playdates or weekends?  I think people do weekend playdates when the kids are very young.  But once sports & activities start up and you have older kids, there's not much time for that on weekends unless you are getting together with another family (ie, the parents all want to hang out together too!).  Honestly, unless your child is asking to play with certain kids or is feeling lonely, I don't think you're missing much by not having a full playdate calendar.

If you yourself are feeling left out or disconnected from other moms, that's a different issue.  But I have not experienced that in Vienna.  (I work PT and we live outside the Town limits but close; our ES is inside the Town, so our friends are a good mix of people both in Town and outside.  I don't see anything magical about the Town line being the cutoff for SAHMs, as PPs have alluded to).  As far as getting involved, at our school there's no shortage of volunteer opportunities.  Check your PTA's website and just volunteer for something.  Choose a committee that handles a big project and take on a small role and you'll meet lots of people.

How's your neighborhood?  Are there kids you child's age at the bus stop that you could connect with?  Sometimes it's easier to invite a neighbor over since they're right there anyway.

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