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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m trying to figure out who you are! He is a real rarity on Wall Street for sure. Do you have any access to money?

I’ll try to relate in the way that maybe he’s thinking. If he’s youngish and hasn’t had too many good years then maybe he’s trying to aggressively save for retirement and college for court kids. Do your older ones go to private school? Wall street jobs are probably not going to be around as much as they are now in 20 years. I’ve seen so many lost jobs over my career. People have had to reinvent themselves. Maybe he’s worried about this?

If he’s making 7 figures, I would definitely want to know WHY he won’t move to a bigger house. If you bought it 15 years ago for $500k and it’s worth $1m then it makes financial sense to take that $500k tax free and move up. You could use that as your angle. I would really push this.

I assume that you are SAH. It seems like there is an imbalance of power. I might start talking about getting a job and hiring a full time nanny to put you more on equal footing.

He clearly doesn’t value family time. I would also insist on a family vacation. If your only vacation is with his family, that’s not a vacation for you. Book a place and take the kids in the summer when nothing is going on. Don’t ask for permission.

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If they bought in 2005, they may have bought at the peak and actually not have much appreciation.  But even with that, I'm sure it's a fine house.

They can't be that young, they are at least in their late 30s, if they bought 15 years ago.[/quote]

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