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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step one: call elder services and ask them to do a welfare check on your sister.  She needs to feel the pressure that her living situation is so bad that the authorities are involved.

Step two:  tell your sister that you need to sell the house. Do NOT answer why, just keep repeating that you MUST sell the house. Tell her you will EITHER give her a cut of the profits from the sale OR you will pay for her to get into an assisted living place. Give her at least a month to decide. When she calls you to discuss, do not answer why, do not entertain other options. You don't have to be mean, just "I know this is a hard decision to make, I know change is hard, especially as we age, but I can either give you money from the sale of the one - maybe you can buy a one bedroom condo with that, or I can find you a nice assisted living place in your general area.

Understand that this may take her months to decide on and come to terms with. If you give her a deadline, give her one over a month away, and do NOT change the deadlines once you lay them out.

Ignore the homeless crazy lady.  
Sister: but what about Laura?
You: My priority is you. You're a grown adult. (the implication is that Laura is also a grown adult.)[/quote]

Do not offer to give her the money unless you are ok with her being homeless.[/quote]

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