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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have everything I ever wanted - good education, good health, nice/healthy children, a nice house, no debt (except a manageable mortgage), a good job, passion for what I do, hobbies, interests, friends. The only thing that lacks in my life is romantic love. Been married for a while to the same guy - we just don't love each other. Married because we thought it was the right thing to do but we aren't even friends. We don't see eye to eye on anything. We fight and it's ugly so we just don't interact anymore.

Is romantic love worth uprooting the rest of my life? Not sure I'd even find it - I'm 44. Or should I be happy with the rest of my life and wish for romantic love in my next life? [/quote]

DH here, 51, in the same position for the most part. I go back and forth. My biggest reason for staying is the family unit. My kids (young adults) are happy, and we do the family thing really well. My greatest fear is not only the family falling apart, but also the effect it would have in the kids. Life's hard enough to navigate without having your base, your foundation suddenly crumble. So every day is an exercise in trying to feel better about never having someone that I truly connect with. I love and care about my wife. She's a good person, and a great mother. But there is nothing between us, and no amount of date nights or spicy things up will make a difference (I've tried). Some days it's fine. Others it's crushing. Not really an answer to your question, OP, but just know there are other people out there going through the same thing. Would you find it? I'm certain you would. But like most everything in life it would likely come with a cost.[/quote]

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