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[quote=Anonymous]Almost nervous to toss this out there but it's been really weighing on me lately. I know people have strong feelings on this issue.

I'm a SAHM of a toddler and most of the women I know are not. That's fine! I assumed I'd be a WOHM, but my life took a left turn when my child was born. I don't judge people for working, or for putting kids in daycare or hiring nannies. I think it's all fine and whatever works for your family!

But I am extremely tired of getting unsolicited parenting "advice" form my WOHM friends! Some of it is straight up rude, telling me that kids who have nannies or go to daycare do better because they are being cared for by a professional. Telling me I need to do things the way their nanny does it, or that they way I do something is wrong. The other day a friend told me that she thinks potty training delays are mostly due to parental laziness, even though her daughter was mostly potty trained at daycare (and my kid potty trained late, which she knows!).

It's just rude and hurtful. I know I'm a good mom and I've found a way to make this situation work for my family even though I was kind of thrown into it. But I am still a person! I know a big part of the problem is that I don't know any SAHMs, but it's just a rarity in my area and in our social circle. I don't expect my WOHM friends to get into the weeds with me on certain parenting things, and I've gotten used to using blogs and podcasts for that stuff. But it would be nice if they could have a little more sensitivity. My husband says that it probably comes from a place of insecurity or jealousy. Which I get, but these are smart, accomplished women. I wish they would find other ways to deal with their feelings than making me feel terrible.

Anyway, just a vent. And if you are a WOHM, maybe think about this stuff before you say it. It's really hurtful. [/quote]

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