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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the other thread, another poster seemed concerned by the pediatricians and therapists mostly writing off ASD.  I figured I should expand on that.

We haven't pushed for a ASD diagnosis.  Basically, I've just asking them what it would do.  As far as I can tell, it wouldn't really change anything.  We're already seeing a speech pathologist and occupational therapist to deal with the speech delay, sensory issues, and to get advice on general behavioral issues.

Is there something more that would happen?  I have a friend in New England with an autistic toddler.  They're getting a lot more services from the toddler there (daily in-person visits, even through the pandemic) , but it doesn't seem like that they do that here.

[b]I'm not afraid of labels.  I'm just not interested in labels for label's sake.[/b][quote][/quote]

Let's talk about this. "labels for label's sake" is only a thing with parents who are afraid to get their kid dxed. I am not saying this is you, I'm saying this is where it shows up in the s/n community.

The truth about the vast majority of parents whose kids have s/n is that having a name for what is going on is incredibly helpful. It is helpful for the parents and the kids. There is so much pain and struggle and finally having a name for why the things that work for other parents to do with their kids doesn't work for your kid is a relief.  The only guilt is not pushing to find a dx sooner.

Having a name means you can look to the future and hear about older kids and adults and have hope. Because sometimes hope is in short supply. It lets you find out ideas that other parents with kids with that dx or similar have done that worked for their kids.

BTDT relief and guilt and everything [/quote][/quote]

Sorry for the re-post.  I just wanted to fix the quote problem for future replies.

I'm really not afraid of a diagnosis. Honestly, the developmental pediatrician thing is more logistical than anything. It's tough when my spouse can't really help with these visits due to work. His visit schedule is already quite disruptive, and I'm not particularly inclined to prioritize something without a clear value proposition. Would anything the developmental pediatrician say or do identify or lead to other resources/therapies? So far I've basically been told "no" by his regular pediatricians and therapists.

Getting some sort of diagnosis might make me feel less like a failed parent, but I have no expectation that it will change anything with my kid, other than perhaps provide me some peace of mind. We're going to do it, but honestly I've been more focused on finding better therapists than getting into a developmental pediatrician. The county's early intervention program is pretty useless when it is all-virtual, but the private therapists are doing in-person appoinments.[/quote]

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