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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm angry. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and I have been expressing a desire for increased commitment (living together) and marriage for a long time. We're in our mid 30s, so this doesn't seem unreasonable. He always agrees and says he wants it too, but when it comes down to planning and getting serious, he bails. 
We've discussed moving in together many times and have set a few dates. When it gets time to start looking for a place together, he says he's not ready for X, Y, or Z.
A few months ago, we discussed getting engaged this fall. We were both in agreement that it would be a good time to do it so he would have time to buy a ring, plan a proposal, etc. I asked many, many times if he was okay with this. He always assured me he was. Last week, I brought up something to do with the engagement, and he said he'd changed his mind. He said he wanted to get engaged, but he didn't think doing it in the fall was the right time. He thought it was too soon, and we still had some issues to work on.

I am at my wit's end. I have stayed with him through so much unnecessary crap. I have to beg for sex. I have to beg for commitment. He isn't romantic. He has a bad temper and is cruel when he's upset. He is still in contact with his ex-wife, even though I've explicitly asked him not to be. I've watched him flirt with my MALE friends at parties (he's bisexual). There's so much more, and I don't even want to type it all out at this point. The tl;dr is that he hasn't been a stellar partner, and I have always been patient, loving, and forgiving.

So, I am [u]done[/u], but I am angry as hell for putting up with so much crap for so long and incessantly being dragged along. [b]What I'm going to do is be syrupy sweet, continue the course, and not rock the boat. I will not complain. I will not argue. I will not discuss the future. I will be nothing but pleasant and easy. I want him to want to marry me. I want him to propose to me. And when he does, I will laugh in his face and tell him to get lost. [/b]I want to hurt him the way he's hurt me so many times. He deserves it. He cane end up alone like he's destined to.[/quote]

Honestly, why in the world would you put one more ounce of energy into that loser, even for the purpose of revenge? MOVE ON.[/quote]

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