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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP shared three things. Her neighbors changed the name of their internationally adopted daughter. Their decision to do so was a step to Americanize her. And the dad said that in a few months outsiders won't know she's Russian. I am amazed at how many conclusions that OP and many PPs have been able to draw from these three statements. Adoption agencies don't train/educate parents. Parents who adopt from Russia do so for the purpose of concealing adoptions. These parents are trying to erase their child's history. Etc. Etc. Wow is all that I can say.[/quote]

It's really not a wow - adoptive families recognize this particular type of adoptive family/attitudes toward adoption.  Wow and sad are two one-word answers that I would associate with this particular family.  There are a lot of problems with what the family the OP wrote about is doing - anyone familiar with issues associated with adopting an older child, the views of older/adult international adoptees (many, but not all), and professional adoption literature indeed would say things like "Wow!."

The child doesn't need Americanizing -- she's going to grow up here and will inevitably become American.  Her name is part of her history and the adoptive parents are erasing that.  It's one thing to change the name of an infant or a very young toddler - it's something completely different to change the name of a 7-year old.[/quote]

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