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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have school aged children isn't your "me time" without them realistically only from 9ish until you go to bed (say 11 max)?  I'm not sure why your DH working from home changes that other than no longer having the potential to take a day off and stay home.  [/quote]

DH is the type that needs to be with me when we are both home. We can't sit in seperate rooms or just not talk. (I mean we CAN, but he pouts and complains and doesn't respect that is what I need). Before I could get what I need without him having to accomodate me or 'buy in'. I could just take a day off or leave work early. But now he is literally always there. [/quote]

This is the issue. I can't believe you didn't put it with your initial post. You are an introvert who needs "me" time and your husband doesn't respect that. You found a work around in the past that's now not an option. Time for a come to Jesus conversation - not "hey I need some quiet time right now" but a sit down, after the kids are in bed, "we need to talk. I have a need that isn't being met and I don't know how to handle it. What do you suggest? How can I build in some quiet time in the constraints of a pandemic?" Explain your feelings, make some suggestions, listen, listen, listen.

Just staying late at work is a terrible way to handle this. Your marriage is going to start to erode if you don't face this head on. [/quote]

Been there done that. Even in therapy a few years back this came up and he just doesn't want to 'get it'. He takes it as a slight against him that I would rather have time to myself sometimes than be with him. He refuses to leave "HIS" home just so i can have it to myself. 
Like I said. I have been able to work around it in the past but him working from home is slowly killing me and my spirit and I feel trapped. [/quote]

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