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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a good list. #2 especially -- I learned that early on as I listened to my mother dish all manner of gossip about my siblings and their spouses and kids, and quickly noted that when I got married and had kids, I would be cautious about what I shared.

I would add that if you live far from your parent, put calls to them on your schedule and then jot down a couple "safe" topics of discussion. I call about twice a month and talk about my kids, the weather in their town, and the health of our various ailing relatives. It seems to appease her and make her feel loved, and I don't get the guilt trips or silent treatment that I used to for going to long between calls.

Also, an interesting note: I cannot discuss politics with my mother even though she is liberal and hates Trump. I used to think "oh, at least that's something we can agree on." But like so many people her age, she watches a metric ton of cable news and sees all the crazy posts and memes on Facebook. So even though she hates Trump, she'll still parrot these ridiculous talking points she hears on TV or that her conservative family and friends share. I used to try to set her straight but eventually I just started avoiding the topic completely. She'll vote for Biden in November, anything beyond that is just inane bullshit. God help us with so many voters at that age and disposition -- it is truly alarming how misinformed and reactionary they are. No wonder Trump has gotten away with what he has.[/quote]

A lot of this describes my situation, especially the cable news part. [/quote]

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