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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That doesn't give you the right to take POA and overrule her decision not to want to move.  In order to get court guardianship she'd need to be a lot worse off than that.  You sound slimy. [/quote]

Sounds like you don’t get it. [/quote]

OP here— have you ever dealt with dementia? She can’t make decisions in her best interest. She wants to stay in that house because she still thinks she’s the same person she was 5 years ago. She has no idea of all the things she forgets. Or that she is asking the same question repeatedly. Or that she yells at my Dad for HOURS on end until she starts to physically assault him. (She made him bleed. And 2 mins later she is shocked that he is bleeding, asking him what happened and if she can help)

So yeah, I’m slimy because I want what’s best for her at a time that she doesn’t realize any is wrong. [/quote]

Are you serious to assume we haven't?  Yes, I have.  I took care of my MIL for a year in my home, then got her into a medicaid bed and was there a few times a week to manage things.  Nursing home was horrible about many things so I ended up getting guardianship and social security rep. payee.  I think I know a little more about it than you.  You don't get dementia.  Moving her would be one of the worst things you can do.[/quote]

My Mom is in the early stages. This is the best time to move her. My Dad is frail and can’t take care of her by himself. And the physical abuse is getting worse. I need them close to me so I can help both of them.

And if you took care of your MIL in your home, you had to move her, right? [/quote]

We moved her as she was living with someone who claimed she was a caretaker who was taking advantage of her and stole all her money and belongings and was doing other shady stuff and my MIL wasn't able to care for herself.  She had no home, no money and other family refused to help.  There was no other option and she agreed to come. You situation is very different.[/quote]

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