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[quote=Anonymous]We have 3 boys - 16, 14, 11.

Our oldest has always been resentful and mean to his middle brother since practically the day he was born. I think the kid would have been happier as an only child.

The actual fighting has stopped as they have gotten older, and they do have their good and brotherly moments, but 16yo never wants to spend any time with 14yo and you can see the rage burning even at dinner or in the car when 14yo is talking.

16yo told his dad today that he really doesn't like his brother and thinks he's annoying and nerdy. 16yo is very social and 14yo is a homebody, but he's not nerdy and is super cool and laid back. He just doesn't care about the materialistic stuff that 16yo cares about or the the ego or need to prove himself.

My biggest worry is that this is going to affect 14yo in the long run emotionally. He definitely does not give signs that it bothers him and he teases older ds sometimes in retaliation and it enrages 16yo. We step in when we need to, but we have stopped doing it as much once 14yo showed he could give it right back AND we realized it made him feel like he needed to be rescued.

I know sibs can be like this but this seems a little intense and over the top for sibling dislike. He is neutral about 11. 11yo and 14yo get along great. 11yo also stands up to 16yo. It's a weird dynamic.

I grew up in a house full of girls. I don't recall hating them like 16yo seems to hate his brother most of the time.[/quote]

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